Wednesday, 31 December 2014

Listen to Heart: 46. Listen to Heart – Working for High Tolerance i...

Listen to Heart: 46. Listen to Heart – Working for High Tolerance i...: Hari Bol... 46. Listen to Heart – Working for High Tolerance is Working for Zero Tolerance…. Today again the topic of Tolerance rem...

46. Listen to Heart – Working for High Tolerance is Working for Zero Tolerance….

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46. Listen to Heart – Working for High Tolerance is Working for Zero Tolerance….

Today again the topic of Tolerance reminds of two seminars which I had attended on ‘Working for Achieving Tolerance’. One taught me that having tolerance is good. One should increase his tolerance. The other taught me to focus towards zero tolerance. Working with higher tolerance is bad. One should work towards reducing the tolerance of working process. One advised me to focus to increase the range of tolerance and other advised me to focus to decrease the tolerance. Both are contracting sentences. We need to understand tolerance. Both teaches us to focus and work towards achieving the target. One talks about increasing the range and other talks about reducing the range.

Tolerance is the word derived from endurance and fortitude. According to the Online Etymology Dictionary, the word was first used to describe having permission from authorities in the 1530s. Tolerance is an attitude of a person. One should permit others to share his opinion. One should respect others. One should respect other’s religion, cast, race, nationality, sex, behavior and so on. We all are in the form human being representing a soul, mind and intellect. One should give space to others as one; himself looks and find space for himself. By giving space to other one shows his big heart. He gains respect. He becomes a bigger man than what he was earlier. Having tolerance and being tolerant is being positive and motivated and being encouraged with positive vibrations and in positive energy. Tolerance is "the practice of deliberately allowing or permitting a thing of which one disapproves. One can meaningfully speak of tolerating i.e., of allowing or permitting only if one is in a position to disallow." It has also been defined as "to bear or endure" or "to nourish, sustain or preserve." Toleration may signify "no more than forbearance and the permission given by the adherents of a dominant religion for other religions to exist, even though the latter are looked on with disapproval as inferior, mistaken, or harmful."

When nobody else celebrates you, learn to celebrate yourself. When nobody else compliments you, then compliment yourself. It’s not up to other people to keep you encouraged. It’s up to you. Encouragement should come from within and it can only happen if you are tolerance and patient.

In effect tolerance involves putting up with something we consider wrong or displeasing but not so wrong that we must move to constrain it. Tolerance is a good and necessary thing. But, like most good things, it has its limits. As a good thing, tolerance is essential in an imperfect world. Without tolerance we might go to war over simple human imperfections. We all have friends and family members who are people we like but, as with every human person, they also have annoying or less desirable traits. Without tolerance we would be locked in a power struggle and a fruitless battle to make each person perfect to us. As it is, we tolerate less desirable aspects of people for higher goods such as harmony, friendship, respect, mercy, kindness and the like. However, there are limits to tolerance. So, toleration is a good and necessary thing but it has its limits.
The Rigveda says Ekam Sath Viprah Bahudha Vadanti which translates to "The truth is one, but sages call it by different Names". Consistent with this tradition, India chose to be a secular country even though it was divided partitioning on religious lines. Traditionally, Hindus showed their intolerance by withdrawing and avoiding contact with those whom they held in contempt, instead of using violence and aggression to strike fear in their hearts. Hinduism is perhaps the only religion in the world which showed remarkable tolerance towards other religions in difficult times and under testing conditions.

Once upon a time a daughter complained to her father that her life was miserable and that she didn’t know how she was going to make it. She was tired of fighting and struggling all the time. It seemed just as one problem was solved, another one soon followed. The tolerance level started diminishing and the confidence started moving in negative. Her father, a chef, took her to the kitchen. He filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire.
Once the three pots began to boil, he placed potatoes in one pot, eggs in the second pot and ground coffee beans in the third pot. He then let them sit and boil, without saying a word to his daughter. The daughter, moaned and impatiently waited, wondering what he was doing. After twenty minutes he turned off the burners. He took the potatoes out of the pot and placed them in a bowl. He pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. He then ladled the coffee out and placed it in a cup.
Turning to her, he asked. “Daughter, what do you see?” “Potatoes, eggs and coffee,” she hastily replied.
“Look closer”, he said, “and touch the potatoes.” She did and noted that they were soft.
He then asked her to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg.
Finally, he asked her to sip the coffee. Its rich aroma brought a smile to her face.
“Father, what does this mean?” she asked.
He then explained that the potatoes, the eggs and coffee beans had each faced the same adversity-the boiling water. However, each one reacted differently. The potato went in strong, hard and unrelenting, but in boiling water, it became soft and weak. The egg was fragile, with the thin outer shell protecting its liquid interior until it was put in the boiling water. Then the inside of the egg became hard. However, the ground coffee beans were unique. After they were exposed to the boiling water, they changed the water and created something new.
“Which one are you?” he asked his daughter. “When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a potato, an egg, or a coffee bean?”

·         “Children are not vessels to be filled in but candles to be lit. So are the Parents. So are we all.” – Dan Milman

In life, things happen around us, things happen to us, but the only thing that truly matters is how you choose to react to it and what you make out of it. In fact one should try to focus on action rather than reaction. Action is pro-active and is positive in nature with positive energy and positive vibration. The reaction is re-active in nature with negative energy and negative vibration. Life is all about leaning, adopting and converting all the struggles that we experience into something positive. All this can be practiced if we have tolerance i.e. the capacity to digest. By increasing the level of tolerance we make ourselves prepared to face the world with love as he gains flexibility within himself. We can say that Tolerance teaches us to have a widespread of mindset and we should work with high range of tolerance band width.
·        “Mind is never a problem, it is the mindset….”

Engineering Tolerance is the permissible limit or limits of variation. Dimensions, properties, or conditions may vary within certain practical limits without significantly affecting functioning of equipment or a process. Tolerances are specified to allow reasonable leeway for imperfections and inherent variability without compromising performance.
A variation beyond the tolerance (for example, a temperature that's too hot or too cold) is said to be non-compliant, rejected, or exceeding the tolerance (regardless of if this breach was of the lower or the upper bound). If the tolerance is set too restrictive, resulting in most objects run by it being rejected, it is said to be intolerant.
With shorter product life cycles, faster time to market, and tighter cost pressures, the characteristics that differentiate a product from its competitors are now down in the details of a design. Engineers are going to the next order of resolution in order to improve cycle time and quality and to reduce costs. They are looking more closely at why they did not get the exact part and assembly dimensions they expected from manufacturing and then are attempting to optimize the tolerances on the next version of the product. Tolerance optimization during design has a positive impact on the yields coming out of manufacturing, and better yields directly affect product cost and quality. Analyzing tolerances and variations before trying to produce a product also helps engineers avoid time-consuming iterations late in the design cycle.

In order to produce good products and at optimum cost and time we need to reduce the tolerance width in fact try to focus to the target. We are able to achieve the target then we can say that we are working with Zero tolerance. We can say that Tolerance teaches us to have a minimum spread of working area and we should work with minimum range of tolerance band width.

Krishna teaches Arjuna that in order to perform his duty he has to learn to tolerate. The most quoted mandate to tolerate comes in the Gita, which urges us to tolerate life's pleasures and pains just as we tolerate the heat and the cold. The joy and happiness are part of life. Nothing in this world is permanent in nature. It keeps on changing. There is climatic change continuously, but we all are supposed to perform our duty. In spite of climatic inconvenience we execute our duty as son, student, adult, father and so on. Similarly, to fight is the religious principle of the Khashtriya, and although one has to fight with some friend or relative, one should not deviate from his prescribed duty. One has to follow the prescribed rules and regulations of religious principles in order to rise up to the platform of knowledge, because by knowledge and devotion only can one liberate himself from the clutches of Maya (illusion). The more we connect with Krishna, the more we become internally purified and illuminated, thereby gradually recognizing our eternal essence as souls. Thus, tolerance paves the path and devotional service moves us along the path. So, tolerance is not about passively accepting whatever life dishes out to us, but about persistently refusing to let those dishes distract us and persevering in the primary purpose of our life.

All Glories to Lord Krishna & All His Loving Devotees….. Hari Bol……
Courtesy: Bhagavad-Gita As It Is (by His Divine Grace A.C. Bhaktivedanta Swami Prabhupada ) , Srimad Bhagavad-Gita ( by A. Parthasarathy  & ) Chapter 2 : Text 14,, Wikipedia.,, en.wikipedia.or,

Saturday, 27 December 2014

Listen to Heart: 45. Listen to Heart – Practicing Titiksa is Having...

Listen to Heart: 45. Listen to Heart – Practicing Titiksa is Having...: Hari Bol... 45. Listen to Heart – Practicing Titiksa is Having Titiksa….. In the previous article “ Listen to Heart – Undesirable ...

45. Listen to Heart – Practicing Titiksa is Having Titiksa…..

Hari Bol...

45. Listen to Heart – Practicing Titiksa is Having Titiksa…..

In the previous article “Listen to Heart – Undesirable Is An Inevitable Facet of Life…” we have learnt the word ‘Titiksa’. It means Patience. It means Endurance and Forbearance. It is very necessary part of life but it is not easy to have it. To have it we need to practice it.

·        “Practice patience to have patience and have patience to practice patience so, Practicing Patience leads to Patience Practicing – Be Patient to have Patience.”

The life is always on move. The life goes through changes now and then and continuously. We need to learn to cope up with the changes patiently. These changes makes tough to practice patience. We need to tolerate things without getting upset. Patience generates and helps to create peace of mind and calmness within ourselves. Patience is a quality we most need for high-functioning relationships. It allows us to keep going. There are three aspects of Patience;

·        Persistence: Doing your karma and duty with right intentions
·        Acceptance: Accept all the way it is. Change yourself according to the situation as situation cannot change according to us. So be with it with positive thoughts. “Change yourself rather changing others….”
·        Peacefulness: Have sense of peacefulness or serenity or calmness in the face of it.

I would like to share a very simple way of practicing patience. While travelling on the road there are signals and we should learn from it in a simple way.
·        Red Light: Means stop. Do not move.
·        Yellow Light: Slow down and think how we want to respond in the best way
·        Green Light: Take action and keep moving as per you plan


Patience is a mental skill that you will never forget, so cherish patience as a major step for you in life. Impatience is something not to be proud of, but something that you should attempt to train yourself out of, before it is something that overthrows your life. I came across an article ‘How to be Patient’ which I would like to share which might help all of us to increase our patience.

·        Triggers: We need to find out the reasons due to which we become impatient. We should stretch yourself to the limit of elasticity only and not beyond it. We should make a to-do list. Try to work for a task or tasks to the limit it can be handled. Multi-tasking can be taken but to your limit. Delegate responsibilities to others this would help to practice patience. We need to identify the people who make you impatient. We need to understand the events and activities which triggers it. There could be circumstances and words and phrases which irritate you and make you impatient. Being aware of your impatience also gives you a chance to learn from it and perhaps uncover a relationship or circumstance that is simply not healthy or constructive, and that you may have the power to change. We need to figure out ways to fix the root problem rather than simply feeling stressed about it. Maintain diary to write and identify the triggers which generated impatient. This will help you to work on to control.
·        Let go with a Long Breath: Take a long and deep breath. This helps us to clear our mind. Concentrate on breathing and you'll be able to get your bearings. If we feel that we cannot do anything to the triggers then have an attitude of let it go. We have discussed that nothing is permanent in nature. As undesirable has come in the similar manner it will go also with time. If we make a concerted effort to be more patient in relatively inconsequential, short-term situations, we will gradually develop the strength to remain patient in even the most trying and enduring situations.
·        Time: Always remind yourself that it is matter of time. People who are impatient are people who insist on getting things done now and don't like to waste time. Bad will go and good will come as we have discussed in the article “Listen to Heart - change is the only constant….” Almost anything really good in life takes time and dedication, and if you're impatient, you're more likely to give up on relationships, goals, and other things that are important to you. Good things may not always come to those who wait, but most good things that do come don't happen right away.
·        Focus on Matters: Not focusing on what matters most in this life fuels impatience. Move the world toward peace by being kind, generous in forgiveness of others, being grateful for what is, and taking full advantage of what matters most. When other less important things fuel our impatience, taking time to remember any one of these items reduces our tendency to want something different right now
·        Karma with Positive Attitude: We should believe in ourselves that we will get eventually what we want but for that we need to perform our duty honestly. Being always positive is very imperative as possessing a sense of patience. Remember that life is not a race, but a journey to be savored each step of the way. We have plans, but things don't always work out as planned. Accept the twist and turns in life gracefully. Keep our expectations realistic. So don’t expect the unexpected. This applies not only to circumstances, but also the behavior of those around us.
·        Do Nothing: Take a few minutes to do absolutely nothing. Just sit quietly and think. Don't watch television; don't even read. So do nothing and close your eyes. It may be hard at first, and you may even feel impatient after a minute or two, but by taking some time out you can essentially slow your world down, and that's important to develop the attitude necessary to develop patience. Expecting the world to run smoothly is like beating your head against the wall. Give yourself a break!

I would like to remind all of us that we practice patience when we see that it is not in our control and we would be getting a positive result. We make this feeling a situational base. We all feel happy when we come to know that we are on the way of becoming parents. The day we come to know that our wife / sister / daughter is on her family way after conceiving we are full of joy and happiness. We become patient. We start loving her more than we used to love her earlier. We start taking care of the ‘would be mother’. We start pampering her. We ensure that she is happy. We try to provide all positive atmosphere and positive vibrations around her. During this period we really show the example of being patience. In fact we all pray to the Lord that the baby should be healthy with mother. No one by mistake also talks of premature delivery of the baby as generally the result is in negative. We start talking and believing that the time of nine months will pass and wait for it very patiently. We should learn from this phase and share with others also as a real example and demonstration of being patience. In this phase of life everyone practices patience which makes us to have patience thus we can say “Practicing Titiksa is having Titiksa…..”

We should have patience and perform our karma as rest is controlled by the destiny. I would like to share a story on the lighter side of the mood…
One Day Yamraja came to a Guy and said: "Hey, today is your last day!"
Guy: "But I’m not ready!"....
Yamraja said: "Well today your name is the first on my list...".
Guy:"Okay,then why don't you take a seat and We will drink a COFFEE before we go?"
Yamraja:"All right.. ".
The Guy gave Yamraja some COFFEE with sleeping pills in it. Yamraja finished COFFEE and fell into a deep sleep!!!
The Guy took the list & removed his name from top of the list and put at the bottom of the list!
When Yamraja woke up he said to the Guy: "Because you have been so nice to me, now I will start my job from the BOTTOM of the list...”!!!
The Moral is: Whatever is written in your Destiny ... Will never change... no matter how much you try.... So, in Bhagwad geet- Shri Krishna Says:
"Tu karta woh hai
Jo tu chahata hai,
Par hota woh hai
jo mai chahata hun !
Tu kar woh jo mai Chahata hu ....
Fir hoga woh jo tu chahta hai....

Krishan told Arjuna that if we practice patience the undesirable will go as climate changes. We should even learn to accept and be happy with unavoidable situation as all are temporary in nature. We should always work towards increasing Krishna consciousness by realizing ourselves. We should learn to face the circumstances and work towards liberation by Krishna consciousness.

All Glories to Lord Krishna & All His Loving Devotees….. Hari Bol……
Courtesy: Bhagavad-Gita As It Is (by His Divine Grace A.C. Bhaktivedanta Swami Prabhupada ) , Srimad Bhagavad-Gita ( by A. Parthasarathy  & ) Chapter 2 : Text 14,, Wikipedia.,, en.wikipedia.or,,

Thursday, 25 December 2014

Listen to Heart: 44. Listen to Heart – Undesirable Is An Inevitable...

Listen to Heart: 44. Listen to Heart – Undesirable Is An Inevitable...: Hari Bol... 44. Listen to Heart – Undesirable Is An Inevitable Facet of Life… We know that there are always two paths. One could b...

Listen to Heart: 44. Listen to Heart – Undesirable Is An Inevitable...

Listen to Heart: 44. Listen to Heart – Undesirable Is An Inevitable...: Hari Bol... 44. Listen to Heart – Undesirable Is An Inevitable Facet of Life… We know that there are always two paths. One could b...

44. Listen to Heart – Undesirable Is An Inevitable Facet of Life…

Hari Bol...

44. Listen to Heart – Undesirable Is An Inevitable Facet of Life…

We know that there are always two paths. One could be synonym to what we want and what is desirable according to us and other could be antonym to what we want and what is undesirable according to us. What is synonym and what is antonym? A synonym can be defined as a word with similar meaning. It comes from Greek which mean as ‘Syn’ is ‘with’ and ‘onoma’ is ‘name’. It is also called metonym and poecilonym.  Antonym is commonly taken to be synonymous with opposite meaning. A word may have more than one antonym.

We all like to like to go with desirable and avoid the undesirable.  A desirable is one that we want which is called desire. An undesirable is one that we did not expect and is unwanted. Generally one always desires for trustworthiness, foresightedness, confidence, intelligence, winning situation / moments, encouraging situations, non-dependable, self-confident, motivational thoughts, etc., in general as per his wish and plan which gives him positive vibrations with mental peace and in materialistic world with Profit. On the other hand one does not desire for being loner. He avoids loneness as we are human beings. One does not like to be in irritable situations. One does not expect ruthlessness. No one should dictate him. He does not like egocentric people and non-cooperative people as all this gives negative vibrations and in this materialist world all this will lead to Loss.

The universe is always in the phase of changing. The changes could be physical and chemical. The changes could be desirable and undesirable. When the changes are not as per our wish then the changes become undesirable because our desires (vasanas) were not fulfilled. The changes become undesirable when it harms the environment and our feelings.

I studied during my student life that impurities are present during steel manufacturing. The undesirable is not fully eliminated. During manufacturing of steel impurities are undesirable for which actions are taken to avoid undesirable results. In final steel chemistry in addition to high levels of oxygen, the crude steel tapped from the converter also contains impurities which are not desired the steelmaking process relies on raw materials from a number of sources such as iron ore, coke, limestone and recycled steel scrap. These materials contain impurities which when added to the steelmaking process inevitably result in low levels of elements not desired in the final steel chemistry being found in the steel. One of the trace elements that is present during the steel making process and is generally undesirable is sulphur. The presence of free sulphur in a steel product is detrimental to its properties, especially toughness. The presence of elongated MnS inclusions in the rolled / forged / drawn steel can present a problem for the manufacturing / fabrication / finishing stage of steel processing. This is especially true for strip steels that are going to be deep drawn into drinks cans. The reason for this is that the deep drawing process occurs at room temperature where the MnS inclusions are no longer soft enough to deform. As the steel blank is drawn into the can shape the wall thickness of the can is reduced to ~6 ┬Ám. MnS inclusions can be several microns in length and this can cause failure of the can through tearing.

I was going through an article about global warming which I would like to share that as we have to deal with the desirables and undesirables and its affects as changes which occur. We go through climatic and environmental changes continuously. Human beings have to learn the skill to accept and adapt the climatic changes. The changes are very easily adaptable by species. Life has had to deal with environmental change, especially climate change, since the beginning of its existence on earth. Species adjust or go extinct, and both have happened. Individual mobile organisms migrate as an adjustment to climate. Plants and other non-mobile species adjust by having seeds. Wind, water, and animals provide the major transportation. If the rate of environmental change is too fast, populations cannot adjust and go extinct. Dealing with environmental change has always been part of being alive for our life. The more technologically and legally advanced a civilization, the greater the need and desire for environmental stability, for a balance of nature. Rather than claim the world is constant except for our sinful interference with it, we need to acknowledge and work out ways to live with environmental change. Achieving short-term stability at the cost of long-term fragility is a trade-off.

We have discussed that change is the only constant in all spheres of life and environment in “Listen to Heart – Change is the only constant….” We need to adjust and be happy about it. We should learn to live with it so that it gives positive energy and positive vibrations around and within us as you can only change yourself. Hence “Change yourself rather changing others….” During performing our karma and duties we have to go through happiness and unhappiness in our life. This unhappiness would give rise to distress in our life which we have to control as happiness and unhappiness are never permanent in nature. It keeps on changing.

·        “To improve is to Change, To be perfect is to change often” – Winston Chruchill

There are different seasons around the year. We all as human beings have a habit of having a desire for which we do not have. In the season of summer when we go through extreme heat and humidity we wish from the Lord that please relieves us from this by giving rains. During rainy season the roads become dirty due to water logging it gives us irritation then we wish from the Lord that please relieve us from this. Then the season of winter comes. We all like it but as the temperature starts dropping we go through pains due to joint pains and all. We again start praying to the Lord that please relieves us from this cold. We always look for better. We need to learn to be satisfied.

In the Hindu calendar of tropical and subtropical India, there are six seasons or Ritu that are calendar-based in the sense of having fixed dates: Vasanta (spring), Greeshma (summer), Varsha (monsoon), Sharad (autumn), Hemanta (early winter), and Shishira (prevernal or late winter). The six seasons are ascribed to two months each of the twelve months in the Hindu calendar. The rough correspondences are:

Hindu season
Hindu Months
Mapping to English Names
early winter
prevernal or late winter

Krishna says to Arjuna, “O son of Kunti, the nonpermanent appearance of happiness and distress, and their disappearance in due course, are like the appearance and disappearance of winter and summer seasons. They arise from sense perception, O scion of Bharata, and one must learn to tolerate them without being disturbed.”
Krishan addresses Arjuna as Kaunteya and Bharat. Kaunteya means ‘son of Kunti’ and Bharat means belonging to or descend from country of Bharat or India or Hindustan.

We can say that one cannot stay without synonym and antonym. The world is formed of pair of opposites. The world gives us the experience of heat and cold, joy and sorrow, pleasure and pain. The experience could be internal and external. The life goes through different experience of birth and death, war and peace, good and bad, pleasure and pain, honour and dishonour, profit and loss, love and hatred and so on. The life continuously flow of feelings and experience in positive and negative direction in the similar pattern of some curve. It is never permanent in nature. It keeps on changing. Nothing is permanent in nature.
·        We should accept the unavoidable
·        We should believe in the unavoidable is temporary
·        Concentration of our energy on inner change provides rich returns

The word ‘titiksa’ means endurance, patience and forbearance. One should learn to face the opposites and desirables and undesirables. One should understand the undesirable as an inevitable facet of life. We should make corrections to set it right. Practice ‘titiksa’ with philosophical outlook. Let us believe and practice that ‘even this will pass away’.

All Glories to Lord Krishna & All His Loving Devotees….. Hari Bol……
Courtesy: Bhagavad-Gita As It Is (by His Divine Grace A.C. Bhaktivedanta Swami Prabhupada ) , Srimad Bhagavad-Gita ( by A. Parthasarathy  & ) Chapter 2 : Text 14,, Wikipedia.,, en.wikipedia.or,,