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47. Listen to Heart – Be an ‘In-Ex’-trovert….
We generally specify and in fact not put a tag to a person but put different tags to a person. We all have a habit of judging a person by ourselves and create a picture and carry an impression about him. We are going to talk about a new tag which is put by judging one’s behavior and we conclude his nature tag him as an Introvert or an Extrovert. It talks about one’s nature and behavior. Both are important in life. So a balance is required to lead this life.
Introvert comes from Latin intro-, "inward," and vertere, "turning." It describes a person who tends to turn inward mentally. Introverts sometimes avoid large groups of people, feeling more energized by time alone. The opposite of an introvert is an extrovert, who finds energy in interactions with others. Introvert can also be a verb, meaning literally to "fold inward," or to "turn inward," as when a child's personality seems to introvert once she starts elementary school.
An introvert is a person who is energized by being alone and whose energy is drained by being around other people. Introverts are more concerned with the inner world of the mind. They like thinking, exploring their thoughts and feelings. They avoid social situations because being around people drains their energy. It does not mean that an introvert never has conversations. However, those conversations are generally about ideas and concepts, not about what they consider the trivial matters of social small talk.
An extrovert is a person who is energized by being around other people. This is the opposite of an introvert who is energized by being alone. Extroverts tend to think as they speak, unlike introverts who are far more likely to think before they speak. Extroverts often think well when they are talking. Concepts just don't seem real to them unless they can talk about them; reflecting on them isn't enough. Extroverts are interested in and concerned with the external world. He is a person concerned primarily with the physical and social environment rather than with the self.
People view them as opposites and I feel they are two sides of the coin. Both are required depending on the situations. Extroversion tends to be manifested in outgoing, talkative, energetic behavior, whereas introversion is manifested in more reserved and solitary behavior. Extraversion and introversion are viewed as a single continuum. Extroversion is "the act, state, or habit of being predominantly concerned with obtaining gratification from what is outside the self". Introversion is "the state of or tendency toward being wholly or predominantly concerned with and interested in one's own mental life”. Humans are complex and unique, and because introversion-extroversion varies along a continuum, individuals may have a mixture of both orientations. A person who acts introverted in one situation may act extroverted in another.
Introversion and extroversion are widely recognized by psychologists as a fundamental and even fixed aspect of personality. Introversion and extroversion are considered core aspects of personality. It is important to note that no one on earth is entirely an introvert or entirely an extrovert. “Change yourself rather changing others”, which give you happiness. Extroversion and Introversion are not fixed personality traits. We need to try to find thoughts that cause us to approve of the way we are. Then, after we’ve found approval for being an introvert or an extrovert, keep what serves us and discard what does not. There is no right or wrong, it is way of looking at it. Discover what truly makes us happy. If it serves us and we are honestly happy being an introvert, remain that way. If it serves us and we are honestly happy being an extrovert, remain that way. We need to be happy within ourselves and is equally important to make and keep others also happy. Channelize the Energy towards Positive. Just try to balance.
A young lady married just 3 years before getting into depression and was feeling dejected. She was pleading while praying to Lord, “Please give me death”. The reason of pain was her in-laws. But she was not living with them. She lived with them for few months. She felt her husband was less supportive and her in laws were very hard on her. She could not maintain her peace. She was hurting herself. The pain was on the increasing trend. If she was responsible for increasing trend of the pain it mean she could become responsible for decreasing trend of the pain too by letting go off. She finally decided to let go off. She decided to forgive everyone and create love for everyone. She started chanting and meditation. Instead of telling herself again and again that others had hurt her, she started telling herself that I forgive everyone. She started using the word as ‘Om Shanti’ very regularly. I am a happy person with a good soul. I don’t want give judgment about others; it is the duty of the Lord. I love myself. I approve of myself. Her diligent efforts started showing result and her continuous affirmation changed her though process. Her thought process changed her feelings. Soon she was a changed person. She was becoming constantly happy, her health started improving and she was more open to people too. She was in more harmony. She was more understanding. She could gain this power when her focus shifted from what others had done to her.
We hold others responsible for what is happening inside us. It is true that others reactions and circumstances create a response inside us. It creates a feeling inside us. It decides whether we are happy or unhappy. However, what we do not realize is that everything is happening in an autonomous way. We have allowed ourselves to feel the way others have been making us feel. But when we start observing closely then we realize that we can take charge of our lives and how we feel. Once we realize that, we become responsible for own happiness. Till the time we depend on others for happiness, we can never be happy because no one can be as per our expectations 100% as we can't be as per others. We give away our freedom to be happy, when we depend on someone else for happiness. When there is no freedom, we cannot be happy. The moment we explore that inside us, we gain freedom and we become happy. We have even discussed that ‘Freedom is Taken and Not given’ in the article ‘Listen to Heart – Knowledge is taken and not given ….’
We can conclude that both are required so one needs to balance himself. One should not only be an introvert and not be only an extrovert but be a combination of both as an ‘InEx-trovert’. To be ‘InEx-trovert’ is not an easy way of life. But I would also like to put my view that in comparison of both being Introvert is required more than Extrovert, the degree may vary. If a person is happy from within then only he can make others also happy. This is the reason when I have made a new word as ‘InEx-trovert’ the prefix ‘In’ is prefix of ‘InEx’ also i.e. ‘In’ appears before ‘Ex’. This could be practiced and attained by controlling our desires of materialistic demands and kill ego, anger, jealous, hatred and so on. If we listen to our consciousness it would help us for the balance. So always listen to heart as Krishna abodes there as soul and atman. It can be done by purifying our soul.
Krishna says to Arjuna, “O best among men (Arjuna), the person who is not disturbed by happiness and distress and is steady in both is certainly eligible for liberation”. Arjuna’s discharge of duties as a Khashtriya, he is advised to persevere, even if it is difficult to fight with his family members or similarly beloved persons as he was supposed to fight for righteous against unrighteous and not against his family members, relatives, friends, gurus, etc. He was not able fight as he became an introvert but for the welfare of the society he should have been an extrovert. He should not have thought for others or himself only. Rather he should have worked and act towards his karma as Khashtriya. One should discharge his duties for higher cause as this is the way of achieving liberation from material bondage. Such a person is qualified to gain immortality, the ultimate state of Self-Realization and God-Realization. One needs to be balanced during pain and pleasure. A balanced mind qualifies for meditation upon self, which is the final gateway to immortality.
All Glories to Lord Krishna & All His Loving Devotees….. Hari Bol……
Courtesy: Bhagavad-Gita As It Is (by His Divine Grace A.C. Bhaktivedanta Swami Prabhupada ) , Srimad Bhagavad-Gita ( by A. Parthasarathy & www.gitadaily.com ) Chapter 2 : Text 15, www.google.com, Wikipedia. www.krishna.com, www.krishna.org, en.wikipedia.org, www.glossary.com, www.vocabulary.com, www.tealswan.com
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