Sunday, 27 July 2014
Listen to Heart: 22. Listen to Heart – Have a Worthy Name and Be Wo...: Hari Bol.... 22. Listen to Heart – Have a Worthy Name and Be Worthy by ……. Last month I happened to visit a hospital because I had...
Listen to Heart: 21. Listen to Heart – Focus on Rejection of Deject...: Hari Bol.... 21. Listen to Heart – Focus on Rejection of Dejection by Path of Actions…. It is a state of depression. It is a part ...
Listen to Heart: 20. Listen to Heart – Compassion for the Eternal S...: Hari Bol.... 20. Listen to Heart – Compassion for the Eternal Soul is Self-Realization ….. We all as human beings have Compassion....
Listen to Heart: 19. Listen to Heart – Selflessness is its own Rewa...: Hari Bol... 19. Listen to Heart – Selflessness is its own Reward…. Motive should be Selfless. Motive should be Selfish. Both the s...
Listen to Heart: 18. Listen to Heart – Sow No Seed Rather Sow Bad S...: Hari Bol.... 18. Listen to Heart – Sow No Seed Rather Sow Bad Seed… In the evening I was in the garden which was full. I would fin...
Listen to Heart: 17. Listen to Heart – Be Rich by Enriching Traditi...: Hari Bol.... 17. Listen to Heart – Be Rich by Enriching Tradition …. India is a country which has various culture and religion. Ev...
Listen to Heart: 16. Listen to Heart – Do not Let Emotion Overwhelm...: Hari Bol.... 16. Listen to Heart – Do not Let Emotion Overwhelm …. We all are tied up to each other with emotions. It is very impo...
Listen to Heart: 15. Listen to Heart – Tasmat is always therefore b...: Hari Bol... 15. Listen to Heart – Tasmat is always therefore but therefore is not always therefore….. ‘Therefore’ is word which we...
Listen to Heart: 14. Listen to Heart – Thin Line is thicker than …....: Hari Bol.... 14. Listen to Heart – Thin Line is thicker than …. Right from our childhood we are trying to read and learn Line. I...
Listen to Heart: 13. Listen to Heart – No Sin for a Slayer of a Des...: Hari Bol.... 13. Listen to Heart – No Sin for a Slayer of a Desperado… I was on vacation for a function at home. We all broth...
Listen to Heart: 12. Listen to Heart – Sacrifice is not Sacrifice…....: Hari Bol.... 12. Listen to Heart – Sacrifice is not Sacrifice….. Sacrifice is word which is known to all of us and is being used eve...
Listen to Heart: 11. Listen to Heart – Be a Patient Listener and Co...: 11. Listen to Heart – Be a Patient Listener and Connect to …… Listening is not an unknown term for anyone of us but Listening is not k...
Listen to Heart: 10. Listen to Heart - Let the emotion burst-out be...: Hari Bol.... 10. Listen to Heart - Let the emotion burst-out before it burst-in…. Learning is a process which is endless for any h...
Listen to Heart: 9. Listen to Heart - De-Cloud the Cloud of Emotion...: Hari Bol.... 9. Listen to Heart - De-Cloud the Cloud of Emotion… Every human being deals with emotions every day in life. We all are...
Listen to Heart: 8. Listen to Heart - Supreme Assistant…….: Hari Bol... 8. Listen to Heart - Supreme Assistant……. I was studying BE. My friend had joined NDA at Khadakwasala. We used meet ...
Listen to Heart: 7. Listen to Heart - Learning by Unlearning has No...: Hari Bol...... 7. Listen to Heart - Learning by Unlearning has No Bar …. In the morning when we go out for work, it is an atmospher...
Listen to Heart: 6. Listen to Heart - Alertness can be improved by ...: Hari Bol.... 6. Listen to Heart - Alertness can be improved by being Alert …… Alertness is viewed in different ways by d...
Listen to Heart: 5. Listen to Heart - Believe Trust, Prevent Rust …...: Hari Bol.... 5. Listen to Heart - Believe Trust, Prevent Rust ……….. Trust is firm belief in the reliability and truth or...
Listen to Heart: 4. Listen to Heart - Over Confidence Leads to Lack...: Hari Bol..... 4. Listen to Heart - Over Confidence Leads to Lack of Confidence …….. In my school we had lots of extra-...
22. Listen to Heart – Have a Worthy Name and Be Worthy by …….
Last month I happened to visit a hospital because I had to meet someone who was hospitalized. I was happy to plan for the visit. I got up ready. I dressed up in style. I myself with my wife had our lunch. We drove to the hospital. I managed to park my vehicle. My wife took the bag from back of the car. We moved ahead towards the hospital gate and entered in the room no. 12 on the 3rd floor. My friend’s grandmother was sitting in the room with a baby in her lap. I touched her feet and congratulated her on becoming great grandmother. I started chatting with her and I could observe some tears dropping from her eyes to her cheeks. I said, “Dadi why are you crying”? She said, “These tears are of happiness beta.” She started talking about this baby girl name, her role in the family, her profession, and what not. I was really happy to see Dadi in a great mood. She was full of joy. She was emotionally overwhelmed. She was with full of positive energy. I could feel that she had touched the sky. The world was upside down. I was just observing her. I really thanked the Lord for the happiness Dadi was blessed by becoming super Dadi.
Some families wait until the baby is born, while others tell their family, friends, and anyone who asks right away when the pregnancy is announced. I just raised a point in the room regarding the name of the baby to see how importance the naming a name was in my friend’s family. Oh … everyone had minimum five to six names in their mind for the baby. Everyone started thumbing the name which they had in their mind. All were having logics for the names they had planned to propose. I said the baby can have only one name whereas if the list is prepared of the proposed names it could easily make half a century. I was wondering about the hospital that it is a place where a soul takes a body which gives happiness and it is also a place where a soul leaves the body which gives pains.
I was going through an article - How to Choose a Baby Name Edited by Hannah, Ben Rubenstein, DarthTater, Josh W. and 49 others; which I would like to share. Naming a child is very interesting. We need to choose a special name. We should be happy and graceful to give a name to the baby which makes him or her and the family and the parents proud of. We need to give a thought if we would like to give a traditional name, a popular name or a name which is unique by itself. We need to consider tradition of the family for naming a baby. Although it’s common for us to focus on the history of a name, don’t forget about the future. Your name and signature are something that are specifically yours and identify you as an individual. Take pride in that! Some will like to name his son after his grandfather’s name and his daughter after his grandmother’s name. The first letter of the name is same which is being followed in the family or the first letter could be same as his father or his mother. We should prepare a list of names suggested by all in the family and good wishers. Organize a program as a get together and start striking off the names which is opposed by the majority. This would help to shorten a priorities the list. While doing this we should always think of great heroes who have made wonders in their lives by putting a good impression on the society, i.e. Krishna, Mother Teresa, Harry Potter, Sachin, Pele, etc. Inspiration should be taken by our beliefs carefully. In many ways, this is a beautiful way to affirm your religious beliefs, or your hopes for the child. It is your first gift to your child. He or she is going to carry for whole life of his or her. So make as special as you can. The name should be loved by both parents and family. Avoid naming children a name that is more typically the opposite gender kind of name. Some names are neutral in gender. The name should age well. The name should age gracefully. What fits a baby or young child may not fit an older individual. Make sure the name sounds good with your last name. One may want to avoid using a name whose last letter is the same as the first letter in your last name. Do not give a name which is too long or too short. It should sound well with the surname. Sometimes there are several variations on a name, and different spellings of the same name. A unique spelling may help your child stand out, but may make for headaches when it comes to correcting people and paperwork. In addition, the child may never be able to buy something with his or her name on it, such as novelties as embossed pencils. The name should be worthy to carry. The names which have bad history should not be considered because this will provide negative thoughts about character. To be in positive thoughts and with positive vibration the names should have a story (if any) with positive so that positive vibrations are always there.
Sometimes the names are kept after historians so that the names motivate a person always. Others would also not disrespect the person. Some parents name the child after the name of a God. This again gives positive energy and everyone takes the name with respect. Some names are given on some incident basis which can be remembered to taking the name of the baby which will motivate him or her to move in the life. It again helps with positive vibrant; e.g.
· Baldev: Godlike in power
· Aditi: Free and unbounded: In the Hindu Religion, Aditi is the Goddess of the sky, consciousness, the past, the future and fertility.
· Ahimsa: Virtue; Ahimsa is a religious concept (Hinduism, Jainism and Buddhism), it advocates a respect for all life.
· Pooja: An act of worship
· Astitva: Identity
· Anurag: Attachment, devotion, love
· Lakshmi: Wife of Vishnu
· Digvijay: One who is victorious over everyone. This is a suggested Hindu name for those born under the birth stars Aslesha and Purvabhadra
· Shrey: derived from an Indian word meaning 'marvelous'. Alternate meaning of this name is 'the best'
· Ashna: A friend; beloved; devoted to love
· Asta: A short form of Astrid. A composite of "god" and "beautiful".
· Anjana: As per Hindu mythology Anjana was Hanuman's mother's name.
· Arpana: Offering; dedicated; surrendered
· Amita: English word from the Latin amitia, meaning "friendship".
· Gaurav: Honour, pride.
· Vatsa: A Child who symbolizes innocence and whose soul is pure. Vatsa was a Sage ‘Rishi’
What we do in our specific behavior reflects on what we do in our general vocation. Gita helps us recognize that we are all souls, who are by our spiritual nature devotees of Krishna. It also inspires us to behave in devotionally respectable ways by helping us understand that such behavior simultaneously enhances our own spiritual happiness internally and honors the dignity of all that we represent externally. When we adopt the path of devotion, we become its representatives in the eyes of the world. Consequently, our behavior becomes the barometer by which people judge the path of devotion. Thus, their devotional prospects largely hinge on our behavior. If we accept this grave responsibility and behave properly, our inner life becomes rich because Krishna being pleased by our responsible conduct reveals himself more endearingly to us.
Arjuna addresses Krishna as ‘Madusudana’. Lord Krishna killed the demon Madhu, and now Arjuna wanted Krishna to kill the demon of misunderstanding that had overtaken him in the discharge of his duty. Arjuna was addressed as the son of Partha, who happened to be the sister of Krishna’s father Vasudeva. Therefore Arjuna had a blood relationship with Krishna. Arjuna acquired this name as son of Partha, better known as Kunti. Kunti had sent a message to Arjuna through Krishna encouraging him to establish the claims of Pandavas over their kingdom by the arbrtrament of war. So Krishna calls him by the name Partha to recall Arjuna’s mind by his mother’s advice to wake him from emotional stupor. Parantapa means ‘scorcher of enemies’. He got this name by vanquishing powerful demons like Nivatakavaca. Krishna wanted to overcome the weakness of Arjuna’s heart. Krishna wanted Arjuna to be prepared for the battle as it was fight against unrighteousness.
If the son of a Khashtriya declines to fight, he is a Khashtriya in name only, and if the son of a Brahmana acts impiously, he is a Brahmana in name only. Such Khashtriyas and Brahmanas are unworthy sons of their fathers; therefore, Krishna did not want Arjuna to become an unworthy son of a Khashtriya. Krishna knew that Arjuna had a worthy name and Krishna also wanted Arjuna to be worthy by name and his karma as Khashtriya. Arjuna was the most intimate friend of Krishna, and Krishna was directly guiding him on the chariot; but in spite of all these credits, if Arjuna abandoned the battle he would be committing an infamous act. Therefore Krishna said that such an attitude in Arjuna did not fit his personality. Arjuna might argue that he would give up the battle on the grounds of his magnanimous attitude for the most respectable Bhisma and his relatives, but Krishna considered that sort of magnanimity mere weakness of heart. Such false magnanimity was not approved by any authority. Therefore, such magnanimity or so-called nonviolence should be given up by persons like Arjuna under the direct guidance of Krishna.
All Glories to Lord Krishna & All His Loving Devotees….. Hari Bol……
Courtesy : Bhagavad-Gita As It Is (by His Divine Grace A.C. Bhaktivedanta Swami Prabhupada ) , Srimad Bhagavad-Gita ( by A. Parthasarathy & www.gitadaily.com ) Chapter 2 : Text 3
21. Listen to Heart – Focus on Rejection of Dejection by Path of Actions….
It is a state of depression. It is a part of grieving process. It may be due to loss of a loved one. If a person has a desire but if he fails to achieve, it may lead to depression and due to this a feeling of dejection arises. Dejection lowers down the spirit. It gives us unhappiness, disappointment and leaves no hope. It takes us towards the hopeless situation making us helpless. It is negative source of energy which produces negative vibrations and creates negative surroundings. It generally arises when one has desire for result. If one is not able to achieve the desired result he gets into depression. He starts feeling that the life is useless for him. He is useless for himself also. This gives the feeling of dejection. One starts living alone. He does not want to face the society and the world. He prefers not to live and if live also he wants to live with himself only. This gives him a feeling of dejection and sadness. He is mentally upset. Dejection is one of the causes of various crimes taking place in our society.
There’s no simple answer as to why people become depressed. It’s often a combination of things and it varies from person to person. We do know that some people are more likely to become depressed than others. Depression can also be triggered by a difficult situation in your life, or it can build up over many years. Sometimes there’s no obvious reason. Being aware of the risk factors in your life will help you identify what might be causing your depression and help you find the right way through it. Dejection could be due to;
· Other members of your family having depression
· traumatic experiences in childhood, including violence
· Death or loss of someone close
· Relationship break-ups
· Traumatic, often life threatening events
· Financial pressure
· Serious accidents (particularly head injuries) or long-term illness
· Some medication (check with your doctor)
· Stress or problems at work, school or university or on the farm
· Bullying or abuse
· Some women experience depression during pregnancy or after childbirth
· Natural events such as drought or earthquakes
· Excessive alcohol consumption
· Recreational or party drugs
· Social isolation
· Lack of sleep
· Poor diet and lack of exercise
If one does not desire for the result and its consequences he can avoid dejection. He has to focus the result and work towards it rather we aim for results and miss the dedication and hard work to achieve it.
In today’s scenario all the parents have very high expectations from their children. Every parent wants his children to get the highest marks and should top the class. I really wonder can all the student of a class can get same marks or grades and can all top the class. What an expectation? If a student is not able to bear with the pressure, he gets into depression and a feeling of dejection is there. Various medical diseases start at early stage. Blood Pressure, Sugar, Depressions, etc. are the outcome and in fact this even leads to Suicide which no parents would like. Why such a high expectation? I request all parents to question themselves, “Were you the topper of the class? Have you touched the peak? And so on.” What we need to understand is to make the children understand rather than demand the results. Focus on process for the result and not focus on result without the process. In industry people follow systems like ISO, TS and TQM (Deming) which are based on process approach (Plan Do Check Act i.e. PDCA cycle). I will not be wrong in saying, “Do your Karma”.
I read that - The most glorious moments in your life are not the so-called days of success, but rather those days when out of dejection and despair you feel raise in you a challenge to life, and the promise of future accomplishments.
· Men's best successes come after their disappointments - Henry Ward Beecher
· Our greatest glory is not in never falling but in rising every time we fall - Confucius
· Nobody can hurt me without my permission - Mahatma Gandhi
The graph of life with ups and downs should be accepted from mind and heart and one should not expect it to be a straight line; as a straight line graph of ECG of heart is also not good and not accepted.
I would like to share an article about dejection in spiritual form. Every fact that the disciples stated was right, but the conclusions they drew from those facts were wrong. Anything that has even a hint of dejection spiritually is always wrong. If I am depressed or burdened, I am to blame, not God or anyone else. Dejection stems from one of two sources— I have either satisfied a lust or I have not had it satisfied. In either case, dejection is the result. Lust means “I must have it at once.” Spiritual lust causes me to demand an answer from God, instead of seeking God Himself who gives the answer. What have I been hoping or trusting God would do? Is today “the third day” and He has still not done what I expected? Am I therefore justified in being dejected and in blaming God? Whenever we insist that God should give us an answer to prayer we are off track. The purpose of prayer is that we get ahold of God, not of the answer. It is impossible to be well physically and to be dejected, because dejection is a sign of sickness. This is also true spiritually. Dejection spiritually is wrong, and we are always to blame for it.
We look for visions from heaven and for earth-shaking events to see God’s power. Even the fact that we are dejected is proof that we do this. Yet we never realize that all the time God is at work in our everyday events and in the people around us. If we will only obey, and do the task that He has placed closest to us, we will see Him. One of the most amazing revelations of God comes to us when we learn that it is in the everyday things of life that we realize the magnificent deity.
Krishna after a listening Arjuna for a long, Lord broke his silence. Krishna wondered how Arjuna could plunge into dejection at this crucial time when the battle was just to start. This was not expected by him as Khashtriya. Krishna asks Arjuna, “Whence has this state come upon you? It is not becoming of an Aryan to behave thus. It will get you neither fame in the present nor heaven in future.” Arjuna had nobility of character to fulfill his obligations as Khashtriya and a leader of Pandava force. How could Arjuna fall into such a dejection state?
In the presence of the Supreme Personality of Godhead, Arjuna’s lamentation for his kinsmen is certainly unbecoming, and therefore. Krishna expressed His surprise with the word Kutah, “wherefrom.” Such impurities were never expected from a person belonging to the civilized class of men known as Aryans. The word Aryan is applicable to persons who know the value of life and have a civilization based on spiritual realization. Persons who are led by the material conception of life do not know that the aim of life is realization of the Absolute Truth, Vishnu, or Krishna, and they are captivated by the external features of the material world, and therefore they do not know what liberation is. Persons who have no knowledge of liberation from material bondage are called non-Aryans. Although Arjuna was a Khashtriya, he was deviating from his prescribed duties by declining to fight. The Aryan race, which inhabited ancient India, dedicated itself to spiritual emancipation (Moksha). As an Aryan, Arjuna was expected to aspire for that ultimate liberation through the Path of Action (Karma Yoga). But this act of cowardice is described as befitting the non-Aryans. Such deviation from duty does not help one in the progress of spiritual life, nor does it even give one the opportunity to become famous in this world. Lord Krishna did not approve of the so-called compassion of Arjuna for his kinsmen.
Arjuna was not focusing on the Path of Action as a Khashtriya rather he was more focused on the result and consequences of battle. Due to his dejection state of mind he forgot his duty and thus refused to fight. He forgot that the fight was between righteous and unrighteous but he took this fight as a fight between brothers i.e. Kauravas and Pandavas.
All Glories to Lord Krishna & All His Loving Devotees….. Hari Bol……
Courtesy : Bhagavad-Gita As It Is (by His Divine Grace A.C. Bhaktivedanta Swami Prabhupada ) , Srimad Bhagavad-Gita ( by A. Parthasarathy & www.gitadaily.com ) Chapter 2 : Text 2
20. Listen to Heart – Compassion for the Eternal Soul is Self-Realization…..
We all as human beings have Compassion. We all are compassionate person. As human beings we have deep awareness of suffering of another and we wish you relieve him or her. We have a feeling of distress and pity for misfortune of another, accompanied by a desire to alleviate the suffering. It is an emotion that is a sense of shared suffering, most often combined with a desire to or reduce the suffering of another; to show special kindness to those who suffer. Compassion essentially arises through empathy, and is often characterized through actions, wherein a person acting with compassion will seek to aid those they feel compassionate for.
I would like to say that it is human quality of understanding the suffering of others and has a desire or wish or want to do something about it. It is a feeling of kindness and forgiveness. Today is a day when people are celebrating it as ‘Mothers’ Day’. I find everyone is celebrating it, in his or her own way. The word ‘Ma’ cannot be defined. She is the biggest strength and weakness of every child. I will not be wrong to say that every mother is compassionate about her children. She is full of compassion. She cares for us more than she cares for herself. She understands the suffering of her children even if she is not told and does everything possible for relieve. Mother is the best example for kindness and forgiveness. We all are children of our Lord. Can say that the Lord is the real Mother, Father, Brother, Sister, Friend… So let us all thank the Lord for his kindness and forgiveness.
Compassion is a quality which is positive in nature. If you are concerned about others for their support it gives positive energy. The vibration which will surround will be positive in nature. It will help us to listen to our heart. The soul would be pure. This is not easy. For this one has to be saintly in nature. Dalai Lama said, “If you want others to be happy, practice compassion.” But there are other benefits as well, and these are emotional and spiritual. The main benefit is that it helps you to be happy, and brings others around you to be happy. If we agree that it is a common aim of each of us to strive to be happy, then compassion is one of the main tools for achieving that happiness. It is therefore of utmost importance that we cultivate compassion in our lives.
It will bring immediate and long-term happiness to our lives. It is something that will bring true and lasting happiness. Should we develop compassion in life? Well, there are scientific studies that suggest that there are physical benefits to practicing compassion — people who practice it produce 100 percent more DHEA, which is a hormone that counteracts the aging process, and 23 percent less cortisol — the “stress hormone.” Meditate in the morning or in the day time or whenever one feels good but practice regularly. In this way, it becomes a part of our life. The key to developing compassion in our life is to make it a daily practice. Dalai Lama also said, “This is my simple religion. There is no need for temples; no need for complicated philosophy. Our own brain, our own heart is our temple; the philosophy is kindness.”
If a person who is saint and spiritual in nature has love, peace, self-control and compassion then we can understand that he or she is actually connected properly to his or her roots of tradition with values and cultures.
I was going through an article by Leo Babauta which I would like to share which will help us to cultivate Compassion in our life.
· Morning Ritual: Greet each morning with a ritual. Try this one, suggest by the Dalai Lama: “Today I am fortunate to have woken up, I am alive, I have a precious human life, I am not going to waste it. I am going to use all my energies to develop myself, to expand my heart out to others, to achieve enlightenment for the benefit of all beings, I am going to have kind thoughts towards others, I am not going to get angry or think badly about others, I am going to benefit others as much as I can.” Then, when you’ve done this, try one of the practices below.
· Empathy Practice: The first step in cultivating compassion is to develop empathy for all human beings. Many of us believe that we have empathy, and on some level nearly all of us do. But many times we are centered on ourselves and we let our sense of empathy get rusty. Try this practice: Imagine that a loved one is suffering. Something terrible has happened to him or her. Now try to imagine the pain they are going through. Imagine the suffering in as much detail as possible. After doing this practice for a couple of weeks, you should try moving on to imagining the suffering of others you know, not just those who are close to you.
· Commonalities Practice: Try to recognize the commonalities rather than of recognizing the differences between yourself and others.we are all human beings. We need food, and shelter, and love. We crave attention, and recognition, and affection, and above all, happiness. Reflect on these commonalities you have with every other human being, and ignore the differences. One of exercises comes from a great article from Ode Magazine — it’s a five-step exercise to try when you meet friends and strangers. Do it discreetly and try to do all the steps with the same person. With your attention geared to the other person, tell yourself:
1. Step 1: “Just like me, this person is seeking happiness in his/her life.”
2. Step 2: “Just like me, this person is trying to avoid suffering in his/her life.”
3. Step 3: “Just like me, this person has known sadness, loneliness and despair.”
4. Step 4: “Just like me, this person is seeking to fill his/her needs.”
5. Step 5: “Just like me, this person is learning about life.”
We all will agree that if we have more of commonalities the frequency would be matched by mind, intellect and heart. We have heard the saying ‘birds of same feather folks together’.
· Relief of Suffering Practice: Once you can empathize with another person, and understand his humanity and suffering, the next step is to want that person to be free from suffering. This is the heart of compassion — actually the definition of it. Try this exercise: Imagine the suffering of a human being you’ve met recently. Now imagine that you are the one going through that suffering. Reflect on how much you would like that suffer to end. Reflect on how happy you would be if another human being desired your suffering to end, and acted upon it. Open your heart to that human being and if you feel even a little that you’d want their suffering to end, reflect on that feeling. That’s the feeling that you want to develop. With constant practice, that feeling can be grown and nurtured.
· Act of Kindness Practice: Now imagine again the suffering of someone you know or met recently. Imagine again that you are that person, and are going through that suffering. Now imagine that another human being would like your suffering to end — perhaps your mother or another loved one. What would you like for that person to do to end your suffering? Now reverse roles: you are the person who desires for the other person’s suffering to end. Imagine that you do something to help ease the suffering, or end it completely. Once you get good at this stage, practice doing something small each day to help end the suffering of others, even in a tiny way. Even a smile, or a kind word, or doing an errand or chore, or just talking about a problem with another person. Practice doing something kind to help ease the suffering of others. When you are good at this, find a way to make it a daily practice, and eventually a throughout-the-day practice.
· Those Who Mistreat Us Practice: The final stage in these compassion practices is to not only want to ease the suffering of those we love and meet, but even those who mistreat us. When we encounter someone who mistreats us, instead of acting in anger, withdraw. Later, when you are calm and more detached, reflect on that person who mistreated you. Try to imagine the background of that person. Try to imagine what that person was taught as a child. Try to imagine the day or week that person was going through, and what kind of bad things had happened to that person. Try to imagine the mood and state of mind that person was in — the suffering that person must have been going through to mistreat you that way. And understand that their action was not about you, but about what they were going through. Now think some more about the suffering of that poor person, and see if you can imagine trying to stop the suffering of that person. And then reflect that if you mistreated someone, and they acted with kindness and compassion toward you, whether that would make you less likely to mistreat that person the next time, and more likely to be kind to that person. Once you have mastered this practice of reflection, try acting with compassion and understanding the next time a person treats you. Do it in little doses, until you are good at it. Practice makes perfect.
· Evening Routine: I highly recommend that you take a few minutes before you go to bed to reflect upon your day. Think about the people you met and talked to, and how you treated each other. Think about your goal that you stated this morning, to act with compassion towards others. How well did you do? What could you do better? What did you learn from your experiences today? And if you have time, try one of the above practices and exercises.
These compassionate practices can be done anywhere, any time; at work, at home, on the road, while traveling, while at a store, while at the home of a friend or family member. By sandwiching your day with a morning and evening ritual, you can frame your day properly, in an attitude of trying to practice compassion and develop it within yourself. And with practice, you can begin to do it throughout the day, and throughout your lifetime.
This, above all, with bring happiness to your life and to those around you. As per Dalai Lama, “My message is the practice of compassion, love and kindness. These things are very useful in our daily life, and also for the whole of human society these practices can be very important.” Someone also said, “Give 1000 chances to your enemies to become your Friend but never give a single one to your Friend to become your Enemy”. Arjuna a man of Saintly in nature also wanted to give chances to his brothers (Kauravas) who were standing in the battlefield as his opponents to compromise and settle so that the battle can be avoided.
Arjuna refuges to fight the battle with Kuravas. He seeks refuge in Lord Krishna, imploring him to remove the intense grief that burns him within. Arjuna is in no condition to receive any advice. He is in mentally distraught condition. Arjuna considers Krishna not only as friend but also as a wise man and as guru. His mental state is not in condition for taking any help from Krishna. Krishna waits for Arjuna till his mental state is ready to take help and advice from Krishna as he is in deep compassion state with depression. Arjuna is in state of dejection. He is overwhelmed with emotions and forgot the role of a Kashtriya. Arjuna expresses his unwillingness to fight with his near and dear ones and he becomes silent. Thus he let his emotion burst out. Material compassion, lamentation and tears are all signs of ignorance of the real self. Compassion for the eternal soul is self-realization. Arjuna addresses Krishna as ‘Madusudana’. Lord Krishna killed the demon Madhu, and now Arjuna wanted Krishna to kill the demon of misunderstanding that had overtaken him in the discharge of his duty. No one knows where compassion should be applied. Compassion for the dress of a drowning man is senseless. One who does not know this and laments for the outward dress is called a Sudra, or one who laments unnecessarily. Arjuna was a Khashtiya, and this conduct was not expected from him. Lord Krishna, however, can dissipate the lamentation of the ignorant man and for this purpose the Bhagavad-Gita was sung by Him. It helps us in self-realization by an analytical study of the material body and the spirit soul, as explained by the supreme authority, Lord Krishna. This realization is possible when one works without attachment to fruitive results and is situated in the fixed conception of the real self.
All Glories to Lord Krishna & All His Loving Devotees….. Hari Bol……
Courtesy : Bhagavad-Gita As It Is (by His Divine Grace A.C. Bhaktivedanta Swami Prabhupada ) , Srimad Bhagavad-Gita ( by A. Parthasarathy & www.gitadaily.com ) Chapter 2 : Text 1 , www.google.com, Wikipedia
19. Listen to Heart – Selflessness is its own Reward….
Motive should be Selfless. Motive should be Selfish. Both the sentences have everything in common except for one word. One has Selfless which indicates positive and other is Selfish which indicates negative. Selfless gives positive energy with positive vibrations and positive thoughts and positive action and selfish is negative energy with negative vibration and negative thoughts and negative action. Selfless motive is having, exhibiting, or motivated by no concern for oneself which can also be termed as unselfish motives. It is the quality of not putting yourself first but being willing to give your time or money or effort etc. for others. Acting with less concern for yourself than for the success of the joint activity.
As per Khalil Gibran, “Wisdom ceases to be wisdom when it becomes too proud to weep, too grave to laugh, and too selfish to seek other than itself.” Selfless actions and thoughts are not only possible, but give a real sense of satisfaction and abiding happiness. Selflessness means we act without thought for how we will profit or be rewarded. If we give help to others, but expect recognition or the favor to be returned, this is not a selfless action. True selflessness means we would do the action, even if it was never know to anyone else. Selflessness means we identify with others. Our service to others is not an act of condescending charity in helping others; our action is motivated by a feeling of oneness. We help others because we identify with their problems and their suffering. Selflessness is its own reward.
It helps to conquers pride. In a true selfless action we are not acting to feed our ego and receive the flattery of the world; we are not acting out of competition or desire to prove our self to others. Selflessness means we act out of a motivation to do the right thing and help others. By definition, selflessness cannot involve inflating our ego, it does exactly the opposite. Selfless helps us to expand our mind. When we act only out of selfish motives we bind and limit ourselves. Every action, we calculate how we might benefit; this attitude hinders the intuitive and spontaneous feelings of the heart. When we act through selfless motives we are helping to expand our sense of self and sense of identity. This enables us to get joy from the achievements of others; it enables us to get joy from serving others. This outlook on life is the best guard against jealousy, meanness and vanity. As per Sri Chinmoy, “Your mind’s selfishness, Is your all-exclusive individuality. Your heart’s selflessness, Is your all-inclusive universality”. True Friendship and love is not like a bartering service at an auction. If we wish to love in a selfless way it means we need to identify with others. This is very different love to the human love that demands and expects things in return. Real love and friendship must involve a forgetting of self and a willingness to put others first. Selflessness is Attractive. It is ironical that when we work for praise and outer recognition it proves fleeting and elusive. But, if we are really selfless, our sympathetic actions will definitely be appreciated by others. True selflessness is a quality that we instinctively appreciate in others.
While giving a thought on Motive it should be Selfless rather Selfish, the first name and picture which came to my mind was of our lovable Mother (who needs no introduction) – Mother Teresa. Clad in a white, blue-bordered sari, she along with her sisters of the Missionaries of Charity became a symbol of love, care and compassion for the world. Blessed Teresa of Calcutta, known the world over as Mother Teresa, was an Albanian-born Indian citizen who abided by her religious faith of Roman Catholicism to serve the unwanted, unloved and uncared people of the world. One of the greatest humanitarians of the 20th century, she led all her life serving the poorest of the poor. She was a ray of hope for many, including the aged, the destitute, the unemployed, the diseased, the terminally ill, and those abandoned by their families. Blessed with profound empathy, unwavering commitment and unshakable faith since young, she turned her back to the worldly pleasures and focused on serving the mankind ever since she was 18. After years of service as a teacher and mentor, Mother Teresa experienced a call within her religious call, which changed her course of life completely, making her what she is known as today. Founder of the Missionaries of Charity, with her fervent commitment and incredible organizational and managerial skills, she developed an international organization that aimed towards helping the impoverished. For her service to the humanity she was honored with Nobel Peace Prize in 1979.
Mother Teresa felt that her work with the poorest of poor was a directive from God. When she breaks her silence after hearing the Lord’s voice in regards to her ministry, we learn some key elements of her belief system. Her statement, “I am merely God’s pencil. It is He who writes,” is key to the humility that she exudes. Mother Teresa is not glorifying in her accomplishments, but giving full credit to the Lord. For all that Mother Teresa accomplished in her lifetime, she remained humble to the end.
I would like to spell few of her quotes,
· We all are pencils in the hand of God.
· Work without love is slavery.
· Every time you smile on someone it is an action of love, a gift to that person, a beautiful thing.
· Never be so busy as not to think of others.
· Love is a fruit in season at all times and within reach of every hand.
Arjuna due to his saintly and selfless nature and because he was overwhelmed with emotions he once again says to Krishna, “Alas, how strange it is that we are preparing to commit greatly sinful acts. Driven by the desire to enjoy royal happiness, we are intent on killing our own kinsmen”. Driven by selfish motives, one may be inclined to such sinful acts as the killing of one’s own brother, father or mother. There are many such instances in the history of the world. But Arjuna, being a saintly devotee of the Lord, is always conscious of moral principles and therefore takes care to avoid such activities. It is the custom—according to kshatriya fighting principles—that an unarmed and unwilling soldier should not be attacked. Arjuna, however, decided that even if attacked by the enemy in such an awkward position, he would not fight. While observing the situation of his enemy, Arjuna stood up on the chariot, but he was so afflicted with lamentation that he sat down again, setting aside his bow and arrows. Such a kind and soft-hearted person, in the devotional service of the Lord, is fit to receive self-knowledge.
All Glories to Lord Krishna & All His Loving Devotees….. Hari Bol……
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