Sunday 4 May 2014

10. Listen to Heart - Let the emotion burst-out before it burst-in….

Hari Bol....

10. Listen to Heart - Let the emotion burst-out before it burst-in….


Learning is a process which is endless for any human being. Right from birth he is in the process of learning. Home is the first school and parents are the first teachers. He goes to school then to college and so on. This continues in professional life also. There are various training programs organized for up gradation. In today’s professional world training programs are organized to relieve stress. I happened to attend one. It was a program of stress relieving. The trainer introduced the organization and himself. The contents and expectation were discussed. The hall was well staged. The tables were kept on one side. Some mattresses were put on the floor with some pillows. The trainer said to take seat where one is comfortable.  In the beginning we all sat on the chair. After an hour all were on the floor on the mattress.
                   

For a case study the trainer asked someone to volunteer. Mr. Prakash stood up. We all clapped for the will he had to stand in front of the house and share his experience. He introduced himself & the company. He is working as Vice President in a reputed company with handsome package. He was calm, steady and composed. Mr. Prakash has a family which consists of his old mother, his wife Sunita, a son Rohit and a daughter Rakhi. This was his 28th year of his married life with Sunita. He was lucky to convince his parents for his marriage to Sunita as it was a love marriage. Rohit is doing Engineering and Rakhi is doing Fashion designing at Bangalore. Both the brother and sister are staying together and taking care of each other. His father is busy in managing finance for his family by working very hard and sincerely in the company. His mother takes care of Prakash and her mother in-law at home. It is a happy family.  All participants started discussing what a happy family. He has everything. Why has he stood up as a volunteer? We were wondering. We thought that he must be having lots of work pressure. This could be the reason…..


The trainer said, “Can you please open up and say what is troubling you”. He said after 27 years of our married life he and Sunita are not able to cope up each other’s life style. They are on the verge of separation. It is just on hold because of his old mother and children. The trainer again said, “Can you please open up”. Prakash eyes were filled. He said, “We were happy married couple”. Sunita was busy in upbringing the children. He was busy in his work like. He used to get ready in the morning for his office every day. After returning from office he used to get freshen up then used to go his joints (where he with his friends used to meet). This went on and on. Sunita was busy with children education and Prakash with his daily work. Now his children are away. Sunita has time but does not have anything to do. Prakash is habituated to his evening at the joint with friends. Sunita is feeling that Prakash does not have time for her. He has time for his company and friends. Prakash was in this thought about Sunita for last so many years. Sunita does not have time for him. The gap started increasing. Prakash was disturbed. He wanted to discuss his case with someone but unfortunately he could not. Today he made himself strong to discuss with the trainer. He accepted the trainer as his master for the session. He surrendered himself to the guide. The trainer very simply asked him to judge himself from the program which was conducted in the since morning. Prakash said that he has never given a chance to Sunita and himself to discuss on the concern. He said that he was neglecting her unknowingly. He was never worried about her concern. He had not said very simple 3 words ‘I Love You’ to her for years and years. He decided many steps to be taken to patch up his life and once again make his married life as sweet as it was for first 2-3 years.


His eyes were filled with tears. His continued wipe his tears. His voice became heavy. His face was shivering. His colleague came to support him. He said he is fine now. He is ready to change himself for better. He has courage to face the problem which was troubling him till now. He said to the house that “I am sorry to disturb you all. I do not know you all except for 2 persons. The atmosphere was so good that helped me to speak out. I was looking for a shoulder to put my head and share my emotions. I am thankful to the whole house as I was looking for one shoulder but today I got many shoulders”.


I meet Prakash very often now days. I also know him now. He says now he is having happy married life. I see Prakash and Sunita for walk in the evening together. They do shopping together. They go for outings. Now Sunita also knows me. She says we are enjoying our life and are in the process of covering up all that we missed. They advise others to share the problem. Do not keep the emotions. Let it go out rather than keeping in. Let the emotions burst out else it would burst in.  This would help us to be in Positive vibrant.


After Krishna takes the Chariot in the middle of Kurukeshtra, Arjun says to Krishna that he is shivering. The Gandharv is slipping from his hand. His hair was standing and so on. In this way Arjuna allowed his emotions to burst out. Had he not spoken these words his emotions would not have allowed him to do his Karma as kashtriya.


All Glories to Lord Krishna & All His Loving Devotees….. Hari Bol……
Courtesy : Bhagavad-Gita As It Is (by His Divine Grace A.C. Bhaktivedanta Swami Prabhupada ) ,  Srimad Bhagavad-Gita ( by A. Parthasarathy  & www.gitadaily.com ) Chapter 1 : Text 29-31


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