Saturday 27 December 2014

45. Listen to Heart – Practicing Titiksa is Having Titiksa…..

Hari Bol...

45. Listen to Heart – Practicing Titiksa is Having Titiksa…..


In the previous article “Listen to Heart – Undesirable Is An Inevitable Facet of Life…” we have learnt the word ‘Titiksa’. It means Patience. It means Endurance and Forbearance. It is very necessary part of life but it is not easy to have it. To have it we need to practice it.

·        “Practice patience to have patience and have patience to practice patience so, Practicing Patience leads to Patience Practicing – Be Patient to have Patience.”

The life is always on move. The life goes through changes now and then and continuously. We need to learn to cope up with the changes patiently. These changes makes tough to practice patience. We need to tolerate things without getting upset. Patience generates and helps to create peace of mind and calmness within ourselves. Patience is a quality we most need for high-functioning relationships. It allows us to keep going. There are three aspects of Patience;

·        Persistence: Doing your karma and duty with right intentions
·        Acceptance: Accept all the way it is. Change yourself according to the situation as situation cannot change according to us. So be with it with positive thoughts. “Change yourself rather changing others….”
·        Peacefulness: Have sense of peacefulness or serenity or calmness in the face of it.


I would like to share a very simple way of practicing patience. While travelling on the road there are signals and we should learn from it in a simple way.
·        Red Light: Means stop. Do not move.
·        Yellow Light: Slow down and think how we want to respond in the best way
·        Green Light: Take action and keep moving as per you plan


 

Patience is a mental skill that you will never forget, so cherish patience as a major step for you in life. Impatience is something not to be proud of, but something that you should attempt to train yourself out of, before it is something that overthrows your life. I came across an article ‘How to be Patient’ which I would like to share which might help all of us to increase our patience.

·        Triggers: We need to find out the reasons due to which we become impatient. We should stretch yourself to the limit of elasticity only and not beyond it. We should make a to-do list. Try to work for a task or tasks to the limit it can be handled. Multi-tasking can be taken but to your limit. Delegate responsibilities to others this would help to practice patience. We need to identify the people who make you impatient. We need to understand the events and activities which triggers it. There could be circumstances and words and phrases which irritate you and make you impatient. Being aware of your impatience also gives you a chance to learn from it and perhaps uncover a relationship or circumstance that is simply not healthy or constructive, and that you may have the power to change. We need to figure out ways to fix the root problem rather than simply feeling stressed about it. Maintain diary to write and identify the triggers which generated impatient. This will help you to work on to control.
·        Let go with a Long Breath: Take a long and deep breath. This helps us to clear our mind. Concentrate on breathing and you'll be able to get your bearings. If we feel that we cannot do anything to the triggers then have an attitude of let it go. We have discussed that nothing is permanent in nature. As undesirable has come in the similar manner it will go also with time. If we make a concerted effort to be more patient in relatively inconsequential, short-term situations, we will gradually develop the strength to remain patient in even the most trying and enduring situations.
·        Time: Always remind yourself that it is matter of time. People who are impatient are people who insist on getting things done now and don't like to waste time. Bad will go and good will come as we have discussed in the article “Listen to Heart - change is the only constant….” Almost anything really good in life takes time and dedication, and if you're impatient, you're more likely to give up on relationships, goals, and other things that are important to you. Good things may not always come to those who wait, but most good things that do come don't happen right away.
·        Focus on Matters: Not focusing on what matters most in this life fuels impatience. Move the world toward peace by being kind, generous in forgiveness of others, being grateful for what is, and taking full advantage of what matters most. When other less important things fuel our impatience, taking time to remember any one of these items reduces our tendency to want something different right now
·        Karma with Positive Attitude: We should believe in ourselves that we will get eventually what we want but for that we need to perform our duty honestly. Being always positive is very imperative as possessing a sense of patience. Remember that life is not a race, but a journey to be savored each step of the way. We have plans, but things don't always work out as planned. Accept the twist and turns in life gracefully. Keep our expectations realistic. So don’t expect the unexpected. This applies not only to circumstances, but also the behavior of those around us.
·        Do Nothing: Take a few minutes to do absolutely nothing. Just sit quietly and think. Don't watch television; don't even read. So do nothing and close your eyes. It may be hard at first, and you may even feel impatient after a minute or two, but by taking some time out you can essentially slow your world down, and that's important to develop the attitude necessary to develop patience. Expecting the world to run smoothly is like beating your head against the wall. Give yourself a break!

I would like to remind all of us that we practice patience when we see that it is not in our control and we would be getting a positive result. We make this feeling a situational base. We all feel happy when we come to know that we are on the way of becoming parents. The day we come to know that our wife / sister / daughter is on her family way after conceiving we are full of joy and happiness. We become patient. We start loving her more than we used to love her earlier. We start taking care of the ‘would be mother’. We start pampering her. We ensure that she is happy. We try to provide all positive atmosphere and positive vibrations around her. During this period we really show the example of being patience. In fact we all pray to the Lord that the baby should be healthy with mother. No one by mistake also talks of premature delivery of the baby as generally the result is in negative. We start talking and believing that the time of nine months will pass and wait for it very patiently. We should learn from this phase and share with others also as a real example and demonstration of being patience. In this phase of life everyone practices patience which makes us to have patience thus we can say “Practicing Titiksa is having Titiksa…..”

We should have patience and perform our karma as rest is controlled by the destiny. I would like to share a story on the lighter side of the mood…
One Day Yamraja came to a Guy and said: "Hey, today is your last day!"
Guy: "But I’m not ready!"....
Yamraja said: "Well today your name is the first on my list...".
Guy:"Okay,then why don't you take a seat and We will drink a COFFEE before we go?"
Yamraja:"All right.. ".
The Guy gave Yamraja some COFFEE with sleeping pills in it. Yamraja finished COFFEE and fell into a deep sleep!!!
The Guy took the list & removed his name from top of the list and put at the bottom of the list!
When Yamraja woke up he said to the Guy: "Because you have been so nice to me, now I will start my job from the BOTTOM of the list...”!!!
The Moral is: Whatever is written in your Destiny ... Will never change... no matter how much you try.... So, in Bhagwad geet- Shri Krishna Says:
"Tu karta woh hai
Jo tu chahata hai,
Par hota woh hai
jo mai chahata hun !
Tu kar woh jo mai Chahata hu ....
Fir hoga woh jo tu chahta hai....

Krishan told Arjuna that if we practice patience the undesirable will go as climate changes. We should even learn to accept and be happy with unavoidable situation as all are temporary in nature. We should always work towards increasing Krishna consciousness by realizing ourselves. We should learn to face the circumstances and work towards liberation by Krishna consciousness.

All Glories to Lord Krishna & All His Loving Devotees….. Hari Bol……
Courtesy: Bhagavad-Gita As It Is (by His Divine Grace A.C. Bhaktivedanta Swami Prabhupada ) , Srimad Bhagavad-Gita ( by A. Parthasarathy  & www.gitadaily.com ) Chapter 2 : Text 14, www.google.com, Wikipedia. www.krishna.com, www.krishna.org, en.wikipedia.or, life.gaiam.com/article/how-practice-patience-stressful-times, www.wikihow.com/Be-Patient

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